3 TIPS ON PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE
1. Get Real.
As you are preparing for marriage, don’t forget to take time for you. Make sure you have a full understanding of who you are and your purpose in life. This is something that several newlyweds lose as they begin working to be “the perfect wife” (which is impossible). You’ll also want to make sure you have a full understanding of your fiancé. I learned long ago that you don’t fully you’re your mate until you have seen him in all of his moods. That means, you know what he’s like when happy, sad, mad, and everything in between. It’s very important to know how the both of you handle your emotions.
2. Get Ready.
When I first got married, I was the happiest I’d ever been. A few months into our marriage, the “Honeymoon Phase” wore off. Suddenly, our petty disagreements began turning into arguments. We realized both of us sucked and managing our emotions. I hate to admit it, but sometimes leaving sounded better than working through the issues. (I hate conflict!) Don’t get me wrong, marriage is great! I can’t imagine my life any other way now. I just had to get real with you for a second. It may not always be sunshine and rainbows. It may take you three years to get a good understanding of each other's triggers. Especially if you are like us and choose to not live together before marriage.
3. Get Spiritual.
At the beginning of my marriage, I went to see “War Room”. This movie changed my life and I encourage you to watch it! It taught me the power of fervent prayer. I began incorporating it into all aspects of my marriage and I truly believe that’s why we are still going strong. Anytime we have an argument or I need to talk to him, I pray (I literally see God move in the situation every time!). Anytime we need to make a big decision, I pray. Every night and day, I pray over us. There are several occasions where we pray together (this is a game changer y’all). In addition to prayer, I believe that you should regularly renew your mind, heart, and soul. This is best achieved when you seek guidance from your Heavenly Father. You’ll want to make sure you’re not holding onto internal baggage from your past. Each of you will enter into the marriage with your own experiences. Those things have shaped your mindset. As you grow with your mate, it’s important to make sure you’re not allowing the past to hinder your future.
I hope this was helpful for you girl! Have a blessed day and I’ll talk to you later!